Tuesday, February 23, 2010

The Blister Exists

Me and my dad rarely do this "guy talk"..once.. he told a peculiar thing about marriage.. i dont think its an experience from his personal life.. maybe from his experience of having seen so many married people.. he stated that life after marriage is divided into 3 phases.. enthusiastic phase, boring phase and rest of ur life phase.. the first phase is very obvious.. the couples get to know each other.. they have sex.. they get a child.. life goes on as they take care of their child.. this phase could be very short if the couple decide not to have a child right after marriage.. then comes this time period where each becomes kinda sick of seeing each other's face daily.. my dad said that if the couple dont have any common interests.. then this period can be very very boring and may lead to a divorce.. if u could cross this phase then the rest of ur life shd be pleasant.. now i should be a total idiot if am goin to talk abt marriage so early in my life.. so change of topic..

i have noticed that common interests have played a major role in most of my friendships.. i feel that more the common interests, thicker is the friendship.. most of u may disagree with this at first sight.. but its something thats always there and we've just blindly failed to notice it..although there are exceptions, almost all my close friends will share atleast 2 of the following things..

1. football
2. rock/metal music
3. socialism in the form smoking and drinking

this is the situation now.. the first 2 have been ever present.. but the 3rd one started only in the 3rd year of my college.. when i try to resolve order out of chaos given an everchanging me and everchanging acquaintances .. i just hit the great wall.. so its like this.. i wasnt like very close to the socialism people at that time even though they belonged to "the gang".. but now things have changed after i started socialism.. i have become close with few.. i have totally lost touch with few.. what is the cause for this blister.. this aberration.. is it just me or is it the circumstances is what puzzles me the most.. atleast i know the answer as to why we follow this common interests policy..
figuratively speaking, suppose you are stuck in a desert.. would you be happy to see a human or any animal?
we tend to be happy surrounded by our own kind; people who have the same mind set and interests as ours rather than different people..

confused, i leave u confused..
                                      -- confucius

10 comments:

evanescentthoughts said...

Agree totally with what you have written. I wanted to write something on the same topic. I have observed this with my friends too. Most of my close friends share common interests and those who dont eventually become not-so-close after sometime.
But this is not what you were talking about. When is that post coming up?

evanescentthoughts said...

Btw I dont like this facebook-like template of yours. Looks very boring. change it

soin said...

wassup homie..yo dood this template sucks..just like liverpool match..shie..@2..only we both share it..anyways da me fascinated by people who dont know what i know but know something else a lot..free

Vishnu said...

@avada.. thanku.. that 1 is in the drafts.. this one is the precursor of tht.. will post it soon.. i jus wanted a simple white background.. any difficulties in reading?? will try to change it then..

@soin.. enna solla vara.. i'll try to change the template.. not getting a good 1..

Saya said...

All the posts look like comments in this template.

Shruti said...

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HaRy!! said...

broo.... ithu yelam discus pani pani... nanga onji poitom :)...

Shalini said...

I agree....similarities do matter in friendships and most relationships that aren't blood-related.
And even I dont like this template...the old one was waaaaaaaaaaayy better

Deepti said...

i partially agree.. but there are exceptions too.. you could get along really well with people who have different interests as long as you share the same wavelength.. more confusion for the already confused :P
Ps. i agree with your friends.. the template sucks

Naarya said...

it was confusing for me to agree or not...
ennamo...santhoshama iru..